My new 9-year-old comes into the room and snoring with tears all over my face "Mom I have so much emotion". She has been sad from time to time for an hour, angry as well. Such a afternoon where everything got a little wrong. Combined with fatigue it turned over and the crying doesn't really end. She no longer knows why she is sad, but today's feelings just had to come out. Everything got a little too much and maybe tears became a liberation. We probably all know how it feels.
We talk a lot of emotions at home (I have no choice, I am an emotional person) and I want to think that the children know that all emotions are okay. That they have room to express what feels and that hopefully it will give them wisdom about their own feelings and the ability to listen to them. And with that being able to set boundaries, say no, say yes (with the heart) and trust that what they feel is true.
Then I make lots of mistakes too. Like everyone. Says "stop crying, now we have to go" even though it may not be so urgent and all such things that adults do. Due to stress, because of the habit, because of yes..oss themselves. We have so much with ourselves all the time, we adults. Other things do not always get a seat and sometimes we only see obstacles and try feverishly pressing a button for everyone to just be silent. Shut up even Although we know that the button does not even exist.
In all this - the wise, the sensible, understanding, humble, loving, recognizable and the strenuous, thorough, contradictory, turbulent, stormy, upside down, we all try to raise children. (Guida is probably a better word!) And we know, that we succeed in giving the little lives at least small strokes of beliefs that our own world, their own experiences are true - worth believing in and living by, so increases Chances considerably that they enter the oh so crazy adult world and do good - against themselves and against others.
But life rolls on and what do we get, what can we do? Not everything always, of course, but what do we and above all - what do we want? We love them outside the word can describe and we want to give them everything. But what do we want?
I think that in a world that speaks a language that is really far from us humans, we have to get up every morning and at least try to do a little better. It's not about not doing wrong, not stumbling and trampling obliquely. It's just about growing where we stand. Setting seeds, trying to remember to water properly for different flowers and all that. For no matter how we turn in and out of things, concepts, pedagogy, approaches and methods, so without children who believe in themselves and trust that gut feeling, feel when it is wrong and dare to scream, dare to laugh, love and Follows their path (although everyone else runs in the opposite direction), the world continues to be as cold as we still all nod in agreement that it is enough.
Making the world a little nicer is not very difficult. Not a achievement worth medals and diplomas. And even though I'm not great at counting, it sounds almost like math when I say: show the kids feelings, talk about what feels. Let feelings be there and do not erase the hard. Only in the acceptance of all emotions can we really feel. If we create opportunities to feel and express what feels for as many small people as possible, the chance of the world will be a little nicer. For those little people, big people then become big people can cause a lot of mistakes. Surely we can counteract it together with our children? (Otherwise we must not actually complain!)