Signals. The newborn baby trusts his gut feeling and "talks about" for us when there is something. It is not always easy to know what, but the child clearly signals clearly. Slowly but surely, the child's gut feeling is broken down and they adapt to what is expected - more or less successfully depending on various factors. As we live today, we actually learn to not Listen to signals. Neither on our own nor others. Whether we can adapt to that concept or not varies - but if you ask me, one thing is certain anyway: would we all have the opportunity to listen to our signals, rely on the gut feeling and be okay with our emotions; So the world could not have looked like it does.
The system we built (how things are organized, school etc) comes from the idea that everyone can do exactly the same thing every day and work and feel good in it. So it is (of course!) Not. The system (if we call it that way) does not want us to listen. Neither on ourselves nor on our children. After all, it could have made visible the shortcomings and forced something new. (The fear of it is not strange in itself! We are habitual people and afraid of the unknown. I guess it is pure programming and maybe instinct?)
I don't know how you think, but at least I want to be part of the new! So small seeds that contribute to everyone's well -being going before "one size fits all" and all the crap (to say the least) that comes with it.
Listen to the signals, yours and others. As long as we learn from the start to adapt to a finished template, it is perhaps a rebellious act to listen. Be the rebel then! (Our children are worth that struggle, right?!)