This text is based on a small conversation with two children. We talked about the questions on our emotional cards and I got stuck mainly for two spontaneous thoughts the children got from the cards wild and safe. Based on the children's thoughts, I myself have spun on what exactly those words can arouse within us.
Wild. On the back of the card wild is the question "When do you feel wild?"One of the children's (seemingly very obvious) answers was: "When my miss goes out of the classroom".Maybe a feeling we are many that can relate to? ("When the cat is gone, the rats dance on the table" ..)
It made me think further .. (the rest of the text is thus mine thoughts with the child's reflection solely as a starting point).When are we wild today? And what is it to be wild? The word seems to be strongly linked to the feeling of freedom - when the authoritarian disappears and (to some extent?) The rules we know (if only for the moment) cease.Is it a little forbidden to be wild? A little outside the framework that we have learned are important. May you be wild; Just in some environments? If so - why is it so?If the word is so combined with the feeling of freedom, maybe we should dare to show the children - and ourselves - that it is actually possible to be wild without breaking important rules. Imagine if the rules are even easier to follow if a certain measure of wildness is allowed to a greater extent ..
Another question on the card Wild is "Why are adults rarely wild?" And based on the child's thought here, I really wonder too. What is it that scares us?
Safe. "How does it feel in the body to be safe?" We read safe on the card.The child's answer becomes (also it comes quickly, without reflection): "When you do not feel that you should die".(Even here the rest of the text is only mine thoughts with that sentence as a foundation).When are we safe? When no dangers are lurking, when we are surrounded by love or maybe when we feel we can be ourselves? Probably a combination of all that. Different in different contexts and of course it also depends on what our lives look like (I guess security means something else to someone who has never had a roof over the head or food for the day).
If the word safe is set as opposed to death (ie the symbol of what may scare us the most) - are there ways to feel secure while being okay with, or has to accept, life's transience? Can those who live in constant danger and anxiety can also experience security?What does it look different in that case and how can we adults use such knowledge as a tool to create more security? Larger perspectives tend to reduce anxiety ..
Wild and safe. Both words seem (for me) lead to the will to be free.Wild you dare to be when you feel free and safe you become when you are free from big, scary, intangible thoughts ..Maybe there is reason to reflect a little on it as a parent. What picture of freedom do I convey - does my children feel free? Wild and safe?