Sleep. Before becoming a parent, it only touches on yourself and certainly many (even non -parents) suffer from different types of sleep problems - but the discussions about it rarely become particularly long -lived. The second you become a parent gets sleep a whole new meaning.
It provokes. Saying "they sleep well" about their newborn child can be an effective way to acquire enemies. Or at least skeptical looks. Because it may not be that someone else has a secret recipe for sleep that I have missed ..? (It must be a coincidence!)
There are, of course, millions of things to say about how to do it. There are also millions of different children. In other words, it is not at all strange that holy sleep works differently in different families.
But something maybe we are wrong. As with so much else in parenting, we often get stuck in the fact that there is a solution, a universal truth - something that is applicable to everything and everyone. If you just do that, you have passed the task.
At the same time, we know (because we have all experienced it) that it is never as difficult to sleep as when we feel we have to. But sleep is no task to do, there is nothing how you do. However, there are approaches that work in one family - but not at all in another. As with everything else, we usually know a fraction of what life looks like at the neighbor, but we are quick to judge on the basis that we know everything.
Sometimes you do in a certain way because you have to - the life you live works that way. Sometimes you have the opportunity to float without relating to, for example, the clock. Imagine if we could meet there, listen and remove our persistent search for right and wrong. Talk and be allowed to wonder (and maybe learn) without being in opposition.
Making parenthood a competition probably still creates only losers.
