Poff. So it was December.
I always have such wise thoughts like this before Christmas really takes off.A few, well thought out Christmas presents for the kids. No Christmas presents (unless it is type homemade jam) to the adults. Not stress. Say no to everything you don't feel good about. Be at home if you feel like it. Etc In infinity.
Yet the opposite often happens. At least almost. "Not, stress purchases (= becomes expensive), oh we have to give something to it and it and it..and we probably have to go on those stuff anyway so no one gets disappointed" etc. Etc..
Of course, there is a psychological explanation as to why we do this - and also repeat the same behavior year after year. But now we ignore it and just leave I think.
Do as you want. Decide yourself. Show the children that if you are an adult you not only have to eat sweets for dinner if you feel it, you also get: "Dislike" (= disgust) an old relative (but you may not to say anything stupid unless you absolutely have to), Christmas decorate as (or if) You want to, say very hard stop if someone at the Christmas table comes with racist comments (it is also giant, to stop talking to that person). You get such things. And for the sake of the children: you have to. Because we want to show them healthy boundaries, right? That they should trust their gut feeling. Go when it feels wrong. It is just as important.
December first. Now we all practice a Christmas that does not mean that we run over ourselves due to lots of reasons that we don't even remember!(And I also do lots of Christmas because I have children - for their sake. It is actually really excellent to continue with it without ending myself on the coup. So even that excuse we end up with now I think).